What Children and Youth Services called in - When are Parents rights on discipline with my child and cys
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I believe there should be rules and or changes in the regulations on how the CYS or CPS system is handled. Many people are using children and youth services against someone as a form of harrasement. Ive always been told that they have to investagate every call they recieve but my god, when people use the system as a form of harrasement its just wrong.
I can't count how many times my kids father has called them on me when he gets mad. The jerk has made up every allegation he can possably think of.. And how about the way they question my children. Recently my teanage daughter and i got into a scuffle. i walked into her bedroom one night around 11 pm, when she was supose to be asleep. I found her on myspace. I have never allowed her to have pictures of herself posted on this site. She ended up closing the labtop real fast, so i couldnt see what she was doing. When i asked her what her password was, she began using foul languageand screeming at me. I grabbed her by her arm as to pull her outa bed. She then latched her teeth right into my arm. We were then scuffling around on the floor, as i was trying to get her to let go of my arm. She ended up going to bed very mad at me because i told her i was taking her makeup, curling iron, and her good cloths untill she gave me that password. Afterall i am her mother and i have the right to know what shes doing on myspace. The next morning i set my alarm to get up with her for school. As i drove her to school she stated she was going to the guidence counselor to tell them i had hit her. I noticed a red spot around the white part of her eye. My god, it did look like i hit her. In all honestly though i would never hit my child intentionally. If i did, i thought maybe when i was trying to get her off me i may have poked her in the eye or bumped her with my arm. Well, as we got to the school, i followed her right upstaires because this child was pissed at me and i wasnt having her not tell the whole story.
Just as i thought she begain telling the nurse that i hit her. I then explained how the whole episode took place. She then stated she was mandated to call CYS because my child had a marks on her. Well a few hours later CYS showed up at my door, and with the police. They stated i was to take her to the hospital of they were going to get a court order for me to do so. I stepped outside for a couple minutes to talk to the police about my rights and they stated if CYS got any farther from the truth they would testify against them. I went back in and CYS left.
My daughter and my husband then told me that after i walked outside the CYS worker asked my child if i hit her in the face? Seems to me thats like putting words in my childs mouth. Well i then took her strait to the ER. The doctor came in and asked Kala if her eye hurt. She stated, A little. The doctor was quite snotty and said, well must not be that bad since you are wearing your contacts. The doctor then looked at me and stated, she mearly popped a bload vessle and there is no evidence of anthing hitting her eye. OMG, i thought to myself, my daughter was trying to make me think i hit her either for attention or to make me feel bad over what had happened. And CYS was treating her like a victim, when she was the one who was out of control. What am i supose to do when my childs attacking me.
Parents had to be very careful not to leave a mark or they are the ones being investigated. Maybe this is why children these days are so bad. Parents are affraid to displine there kids or even fight back when they are the ones being attacked, and kids know all about the system these days. i can't count how many time my daughter has threatened me when she doesnt get her way.
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I'm having similar problems with my 13 year old daughter. she runs away, drinks, and smokes weed. She is mean & hateful towards me when we are alone. But calls police, cys, tells her counselors and school that i am mean, on drugs, hate her, don't want her, etc. I'm ready to say " take her" before I have a nervous breakdown. And anyone else notice its daughters doing thus and not sons ?
AGREED. Worst part is you now have a stigma. If you have to face court, most judges only side with the accuser. Best of luck.
Can I really sue cys?
Whats your question Melissa?
Have a question?????
I am going through the same kind of issues.if anyone wants to sue for damages contact coolladyinpittsburgh@gmail.comno matter what the issue is i can for free help
I been a good christain woman all my life artissha.s@Gmail.com. I count my gains not my losses. My life was invaded by hatred. Alot of people don't like me cause I can do for myself and I. am a good person.some years back someone called cys on me noumerous times and I lost three children I never did anything wrong but I suffered along with that I got harassed by the cops twice and put In jail for no reason my first times going to jail for being innocent tore me apart. And finally hospitalize and I'm still not crazy.I was wrongfully terminated from my job. I'm 30 now but I thought how could my life be. Going down hill so fast without my doing. Yes i was scared but I stayed strong. I found resources to help me mend the broken pieces of my life back together plus I sued them all and my settlements are comming in, yes I do feel good and I got peace in my life again, I hope whoever truer me never plays with me again. I have No time to play games and to much to live for. God is good.
i am going threw the same thing because i get into a fight with a girl 3 different times this year every time we get along something goes wrong and then she calls welfare on me, this time the allegations were so sick and nasty that i am disgusted, srs found out all the allegations were not all the way true, but how do i get her for harrasment???
I'm 16. I have had many issues growing up and I've gotten diagnosed with depressive disorder. Because of my depression, I do not go to school. And I'm seriously Truent.
But the judge turned me over to child services....for what?? Not going to school.
It's not like I'm unhappy. I love my family more than anything. They try to get me to go but I don't.
I don't know what is wrong with me.
Ever since I got into the 7th grade it's like, I suddenly turned out to be someone completely different. I'm now in 11th grade and things are getting 3x more worse with school. I don't know what to do. But I do know, there is no right to call child services just because I'm missing school. I know it's against the law not to go but they gotta understand that life is stressful for me and for everyone else.
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my 14 year old daughter uses the system to get what she wants now i just want to kick her butt out cause i am not taking her shit no more cause she is disstructive and minipulates her friends
My 12 year old daughter hit me in the head with a cd player' I slapped her face and she said she was telling her teachers that she is abused.
Here is my thoughts on cys. Here are a group of people that don't live with you and see what happens on a day to day basis. A lot of them don't even have their own children but yet since they read a book they can come tell you how to raise your kids. I'm sure that they are all perfect. how about I go read a book on how to build a bridge and then go tell a 15 year experienced bridge builder how to build a bridge. My point bein
g is that people live with their kids and are involved with their everyday activities and know the truth. I got my ass beat growing up and I lived
I would take the computer and trash it. Call the police and press charges if she bites you and put her out the house for making threats and cursing. Life is too short to put up with a kid that thinks they are grown. Treat each one that way and give them a taste of the real world. This is what's wrong with society right now. Kids that are brought into this world and think they run the house and make the rules. Next there are parents that are scared to do something about it because they have to worry about the police, social worker and judge getting involved in the family. Then you have to spend money to defend yourself and try to stay out of trouble when the parent is being a parent. When does it end!!!! It seems to me that a parent can't discipline without everyone else and their mother from the state feeling the need to get involved. I understand your frustration. If a child or anyone wants to make false claims against you. My advice is to wash your hands of them and move on. I have to be straight forward on this because I've seen situations like this happen to my friends and family and it isn't fair. But that's what they say about life too!!
Hi, I think others have given some good comments already. I would only add that I would definately let her know the harm she can cause, short and long term if the state gets involved in your lives. she is probably unaware of the damage this can do to a family.
As a social worker and a mother of 3 grown daughter of my own. I fully understand there are two or more sided to every story even though many people don't see this.
Interesting Hub! Here's one of mine: http://hubpages.com/hub/notospanking
I agree with the first comment - take away her computer, which she feels is her lifeline, and tell her she has to earn it back by apologizing to you for her bad behavior and doing a ton of chores and things around the house. exercise everything within your control that she can't use against you - you control the purse strings, so if she wants money to buy more clothes or cosmetics, she's going to have to get it from you. I'm sorry this happened to you, and I hope things improved.
Good Hub. I agree with you. I do not punish my children by whipping them, I try to take things away and ground them. However, I have a teenager now, and luckily she is a good child. I can only imagine being in your situation with her fighting back to you. She was very disrespectful. How did all of this turn out for you? Thank you for sharing.
Hello kmacky!
Well, I wouldn't know anything about youth services but there is a way to avoid the whole situation.
I'm a teen, so I know this would be how I'd like my mother to approach me if I was in this predicament. Since the problem is with your daughter's access to the computer, I'd like my mother to take that away from me, since that's where I messed up. Clothing, hair, and make-up are completely unrelated to the problem.
And if your daughter starts to get physical with you in such a violent manner, call the police to let her know who's boss. No teenager should ever bite, hit, scratch, etc. an adult who is trying to help them become a better person, but never engage in the physical activity!
I hope this helps in the future! I'm praying for you and your daughter, that the relationship mends!
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You should took her fun away like her computer since she really don't need it till she give you that password. That a doctor statement and hand it to the Caseworker to tell them proof it was contact in her eye that causes her blood vessel to pop in the eye. There no sign of hitting her