Inform you about Domestic Violence ,Why do woman stay?How getting out of a Domestic Violence Relationship is best

http://www.wivb.com/dpp/news/crime/Police-say-man-charged-with-DWI-after-domestic-incident

This news report gave me chills. As I was driving to work one morning, I heard the news report on the radio and almost went off the road. Eight years ago, I was in a domestic violence relationship with this same man,"Albert Reynolds", and I also have two children by him. As I sit and think about my life and the choices I made at the time, I wish I could have done things differently and listened to family and friends around me. Many people do not understand why woman stay in a domestic violence relationship for so long before finally getting out.

Domesic violence also known a domestic abuse or spousal abuse, it has a broad definition as a patern of abusive behaviors by a partner in an intimate relationship. Domestic abuse has many forms including physical or threats of. About one-third of domestic Violence cases are actually reported in the United States, it also affects more than 32-million Americans or over 10% of the US population.

There are many reasons a woman may stay in a Domestic Violence relationship. I can only inform you of the reasons why I stayed for five years too long. I feared being hunted down and the issues when he found me. I feared he would take my child as he said if I even metioned I would leave. He would state, I would never see my kids again and he would make my life a living hell as he has done of a good job of that for the last ten years. I felt at times helpless and exhausted and trapped. I also felt at the time, I grew up without a father and I did not want my children to have to experience the same issues. everytime I had this man arrested he would do things to me and also have his mother involved in helping such as having my utilities turned off if the middle of winter when he was in Jail. My ex and his mother would also make stupid calls to CPS such as reporting my home was unsanitary. Anyone who knows me knows theres nothing even out of place and my home, it was mearly a way to hurt me for having him arrested. So many times I took him back to make the drama stop.

I was pregnant for my daughter Faith at the time I decided to leave him. My mother had told me if I was ready I could not go to her house because she did not want this man stalking her home. He had finally got a job and was only working about a week or two after 3 years of not working at all. As he went to work I called my family and told them I was ready after going to the doctor that day. The doctor had said, Eithor I leave this man or I am going to miscarry my baby so I made the decision that day to leave. My family came at about 11pm after Albert went to work and I called the domestic violence hotline. My mom took my belongings and I went into a shelter, never looking back again.

Over the years I had many flashacks and the news report has made me have many more, including hotsweats. Many woman do not realize the longer you stay, I believe the more it causes mental affects on you. Things do not get better, they only get worse and the more damage it causes you and your children.